Interesting read. I can relate to some of the writer’s experience.
Your story is one I can easily relate with. Not that I’m femme. I’m not. But just like you, I’m gay and currently a student of the University of Nigeria Nsukka.
One of the reasons I’ve refused against all odds to stay in any of the Boy’s hostel is because of the taunts that one who doesn’t conform to the so-called ‘bro code’ receive daily there. I have a friend who’s femme and lives tyere.Now, there’s no evidence that this guy is gay. Yet, to everyone, he is not just gay but is not meant to be talked to. He’s avoided like a leper and that I know is affecting him psychologically.
I know it’s affecting him because he now finds it difficult to make friends. Even when a person wants to befriend him, he finds a way to shut the person out. It’s that bad.
Just yesterday, a classmate dropped a voice note on our WhatsApp group where he argued that the boys were not represented in the committee recently set up for the departmental elections that will be holding ending of this week. His reason is that only three people were selected from our class, two girls and “one gay boy”. That gay boy is me and as far as he is concerned, a gay boy is not a boy. In fact, another replying to that voice note addressed me as ‘sis’. It’s that stupid.
Thanks for writing this.
Beautifully written. The experiences expressed in words does magic to the reader. Kudos!
Such a beautiful read.
Honestly, if I weren’t queer, I would have said you made fiction. We have all been there, dear Chibuke. It was in that same 2019 that I accepted my queer self, all thanks to the work of people like Georgia Beers and Radclyffe (I read their lesbian novels on Anybook).
More power to elbow, writer. 😇😇😇😇